Quick answer: For your first sex toy, choose something small, made from body-safe silicone, rechargeable and easy to control, such as a slim vibrator, an air pulse stimulator or a compact wand. Expect to spend $50 to $120 for good quality, and add a water-based lubricant.
Key takeaways
- Start small and simple. You can always size up later.
- Look for body-safe silicone. It is non-porous and easy to clean.
- Rechargeable toys are more powerful and cheaper to run than battery toys.
- Use water-based lube, especially with silicone toys.
Step 1: Decide what kind of stimulation you want
- External (clitoral) stimulation: the most popular choice for beginners. Try an air pulse toy from our stimulators range or a compact massager.
- Internal stimulation: choose a slim, smooth or gently curved vibrator rather than a large realistic shape.
- Both at once: a rabbit vibrator stimulates inside and outside at the same time.
- For penis owners: a soft stroker or a cock ring is an easy first step.
- For couples: look at our couples range, including wearable toys and games.
Step 2: Choose a body-safe material
Medical-grade silicone, glass and stainless steel are non-porous, which means they do not trap bacteria and are easy to clean. Jelly, TPE and TPR feel very soft and are often cheaper, but they are porous and need more careful cleaning. If a toy has a strong chemical smell, choose something else.
Step 3: Pick rechargeable or battery
Rechargeable toys are usually stronger, quieter and save you buying batteries. Battery toys are cheaper upfront and handy for travel. For a first toy you plan to use regularly, we recommend a rechargeable vibrator, such as the Ashella Vibes Slim G Spot ($69.95). On a tighter budget, the Love Us Beginners Bumpy Vibe ($54.95) is a simple, beginner-friendly option.
Step 4: Set a budget
| Budget | What you get |
|---|---|
| Under $50 | Simple battery vibrators, bullets, strokers and cock rings. Good for trying something new. |
| $50 to $120 | The sweet spot: rechargeable silicone vibrators, air pulse toys and compact wands. |
| $120 and up | Premium brands such as Womanizer and We-Vibe, app control and longer warranties. |
Step 5: Don’t forget lube
Lube makes almost every toy more comfortable. A water-based lubricant is safe with every toy material and easy to wash off. Pjur Basic Water Based is a reliable all-rounder. Silicone lube lasts longer but can damage silicone toys, so save it for glass, steel or toy-free play.
Beginner-friendly picks
Our verdict
Most first-time buyers are happiest with a small rechargeable silicone toy and a bottle of water-based lube. Keep it simple, take your time and start on the lowest setting. When you know what you enjoy, you can explore more. Read our toy cleaning guide to keep your new toy in great condition.
Frequently asked questions
What is the best sex toy for a beginner?
A small, rechargeable silicone vibrator or an air pulse clitoral stimulator is the most popular first choice. They are easy to use, easy to clean and not intimidating.
How much should I spend on my first sex toy?
Between $50 and $120 gets you a good quality rechargeable toy made from body-safe silicone. Very cheap toys are often porous or less reliable.
Is my order shipped discreetly?
Yes. Every Sexy Boutique order ships in plain, unbranded packaging with nothing on the outside that shows what is inside.
Do I need lube with a sex toy?
It is not required, but lube makes toys more comfortable and enjoyable. Water-based lube is safe with every toy material.
Are sex toys safe to use?
Yes, when they are made from body-safe materials such as silicone, cleaned before and after use, and used with a suitable water-based lube.
Can I return a sex toy if I change my mind?
For hygiene reasons, intimate products cannot be returned for change of mind. Faulty items are covered under Australian Consumer Law. See our Returns Policy for details.
Still not sure? Our friendly team is happy to help, with no judgement. Call 1800 249 569 or visit our Carrum Downs store. Every order ships in discreet, unbranded packaging, with free standard shipping on orders over $100.
